Two things keep most people from leaving their 9 to 5 and starting their own business. The first one is money. If you don’t have money it’s hard to start a business and even harder to leave your main source of money (your job). The second one is your spouse. If you can’t convince your spouse to get on board, you are in trouble.

Sadly, I’ve been divorced 3 times. Never over me cheating, stealing, or doing immoral shit. 2 of the 3 left me because I wanted to start my own business, and do my own thing, and they were not on board with it. Women love security and even get married for it. When you take that security away, it scares them. For the record, the 3rd one left me because she was a cheating whore, but that’s not the point of the story here. Just clearing things up

In the back of our head, WE ALL KNOW we should be doing something bigger in business than we are now. It’s easy to think big, but it’s scary as hell to make big moves. It’s not only scary for you, but it’s also usually even scarier for your spouse.

I’m going to give you 5 things you can do to get your spouse on board with you starting your own business. I’m not going to sugar coat things though. I’m going to hit you between the eyes with the cold hard truth and it’s gonna upset some of you who read this. That doesn’t make it untrue, it just makes it blunt.

#1 Save Up Money: If you’re going to start a business, there’s going to be costs upfront. Software, CRM, Quickbooks, inventory, payroll, taxes, lawyers for LLC paperwork, the list goes on. To think you can start a business with little to no money, means you think like an idiot. Joining a network marketing program is not starting your own business. Getting an ecom drop-shipping site is not starting your own business.

If you’re going to be good with money in your own business, you better get good with money before you start your own business. I’ve been able to start successful businesses for a reason. I’m good with money.

When I was earning $300,000 per year at my corporate job, I didn’t live in a million-dollar home. I didn’t drive a $100,000 car. I lived in a home that I bought for $112,000 and I drove a car that cost $35,000. Both financed and I saved most of the leftover income I made.

I used to see people who made 1/4 what I did live in bigger houses, with fancier cars and massive debt. I was able to start my own business because I didn’t have much debt and I had saved my income.

Before you do anything in regards to starting your own business you need to start living below your means. This may mean selling your house, downsizing and using the profit from your home to pay off debt. Even though I had a lot of money saved, I sold my house and moved in with in-laws to start my business.

#2 Gain Their Trust: If your spouse doesn’t trust you, you are fucked. And I don’t mean fucked like getting laid, I mean fucked like your marriage is in big trouble. Let’s be real though, if your spouse doesn’t trust you, YOU GAVE THEM TRUST ISSUES. Many of you don’t stay focused, you chase stupid dreams instead of serious goals and you let them down without apology time and time again. Yeah, I said it. It’s fucking true too and you know it.

If you have let your spouse down due to starting up and failing before, you need to earn that trust back. The first way to do this is to be a better leader. A leader is someone who keeps their word and does exactly what they tell others they are going to do. Don’t make BS promises you don’t intend on keeping.

Leaders also take ownership and do what needs to be done to make what they want to happen, happen. Leaders don’t give up on the people on their team. You need to demonstrate daily that you can start this new business venture. The way to do this is not by talking about it or begging daily. It’s by taking the actions that show them you are serious and you are willing to work your ass off to make your family’s dreams come true.

#3 Prove You’re a Hard Worker: Your spouse knows who you are better than anyone. The reason why is that once most people get married they let themselves go. They go back to the old person they were. The go back to being lazy. They go back to the easiest version of themself they can be.

Think about the first date with your spouse. Did you put your best foot forward? Of course you did. Then, after you got laid a few times you started getting lazy. You didn’t have to work for it anymore, so you stopped working for it. Shit happens every day. That’s when your spouse starts to realize you’re lazy. You’re willing to work for what you want, but not willing to keep working hard to keep it.

My wife Amy knows I work hard. It’s 7 am on a Sunday when I’m writing this. Everyone in my family is asleep and I’m up working. I’ve been this way all my life and for sure the 6 years we been together. I still open the door for her and still work hard to seduce her and lay the pipe. Yep, I said it ’cause it’s true. She will tell you no one works harder than me. This is why when I want to start something up, she’s behind me 100% and usually on top of me to😉

#4 Get Her/Him Involved: You’re most likely gonna need your spouse involved in the business too. After all, if you’re married it’s technically half theirs too. This can give you something to work on together. This gives you a chance to share some goals. You’re going to have to be the leader, but they will follow your lead if you include them.

You can’t make it all about you. That’s called being selfish and it will lead to your spouse being resentful and that will lead them to become lazy. The last thing you want is for you to be working your ass off while your spouse smokes bong hits all day watching Jerry Springer re-runs. You need them on board making the family business a family ran business.

Ask them what parts of the new business they would like to be in charge of and help with. They may want to be vice president or they may want to be the janitor. Don’t assign a job to them. Ask them what job they want to do. Then make your team revolve around the arrangement.

#5 Be a Good Leader: If you are a person who takes ownership, never points blame and keeps your word, you are a good leader. If you have these qualities your spouse will most likely not give you objections about a new business.

The issue is that sadly most people do not have these qualities. Therefore their spouse doesn’t think they can lead at home, let alone a workforce and organization. If you let your family down at home, the spouse knows you’ll let your work family down at work.

How you do anything is how you do everything.

Be a good leader and keep your word. Gain their trust, respect, and admiration back. Once you prove this to your spouse they will trust you. Once they trust you to lead the family, they will trust you to lead the new business venture.

You see, it’s never about the new business. It’s about how your actions are at home and how you treat life in general. If you are lazy at home, lazy on your current job and lazy at trying to be a good spouse, your spouse knows you’ll be lazy in your new biz venture.

Starting is a business is hard and requires hard work and good leadership. If you lack these qualities in one area, your spouse knows you’re just destined to fuck the new job up too.

Getting your spouse on board for a new business starts at home. You show up at home and in your marriage as your best self, then they will trust you to show up in your new venture as your best self too. It’s really that easy.

If you start a new biz you will face the Force of Average. If you’re not sure what that is or how to beat it, watch the free video here at www.forceofaverage.com